Dear Legacy... When You Feel Off | EP 12 | Dear Legacy…Podcast

Everything looks fine on the outside… but something still doesn't feel right. That feeling isn't confusion it's a signal. And it's time to listen to it.

WHY YOU SHOULD WATCH / LISTEN:

This one hits different.

Episode 12 of Dear Legacy is raw, unfiltered, and exactly what you didn't know you needed to hear today. Kevin B the Brand gets personal about the last few weeks the move of studio space, the chaos, the lost momentum, the quiet struggle with depression and turns that experience into one of the most honest conversations this show has had yet.

If you've ever woken up, handled everything on your list, kept it together for everyone around you… and still felt completely off inside this episode was made for you.

No quick fixes. No toxic positivity. Just real talk about what it means to feel disconnected from yourself, why that feeling is actually pointing you somewhere, and how to start moving back into alignment one small, intentional step at a time.

This is the conversation you've been needing but probably haven't been having.

FULL EPISODE WRITE-UP:

There's a version of feeling lost that nobody talks about the one where nothing is technically wrong.

You're still showing up. Still handling your responsibilities. Still making moves. But internally? Something's off. And you can't fully explain it, which somehow makes it worse.

In Episode 12 of Dear Legacy, Kevin B the Brand opens up about exactly that the last few weeks of navigating a move, losing his routine, battling creative and emotional disconnection, and quietly wrestling with depression while still trying to push forward. And instead of glossing over it, he slows down and does what Dear Legacy was built for: sits with it, gets honest about it, and turns it into a conversation that reflects real life.

Because that feeling of being off? It's not a flaw. It's not weakness. It's feedback.

This episode breaks down three powerful truths about that feeling most people spend their days running from:

1. The Signal — Recognizing What You Can't Name That quiet discomfort that shows up when the day slows down isn't random noise. Kevin breaks down what it actually means when everything looks right on paper but still doesn't feel right inside and why going through the motions without being present is one of the most dangerous places you can live.

2. What the Signal Is Pointing To Sometimes you're not broken you've just outgrown something and haven't adjusted yet. Kevin challenges listeners to stop choosing comfort over clarity and get honest about what they already know but haven't been willing to face. Because awareness doesn't come from searching harder. It comes from finally being honest.

3. How You Respond — Realign, Don't Overhaul You don't need to blow everything up. You don't need a full reset. You need a realignment. Kevin walks through the power of small, intentional adjustments rebuilding routines, reestablishing presence, and learning to let your actions actually reflect where you're trying to go.

The episode closes with five reflection questions designed to cut through the noise and bring you back to yourself because that's what this show is about. Not perfection. Not performance. Presence.

Feeling off isn't the end of the story. It's the beginning of a more honest one.

If this episode connects with you subscribe to Dear Legacy, drop a comment with what hit home, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your legacy is being built in real time.

Define it. Build it. Live it.

CHAPTERS & TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Welcome Back: The Break, The Move, and The Reset 

02:30 — Losing Momentum and Why That's Not Failure 

05:17 — What Dear Legacy Is Really Built For 

06:46 — When External Success Feels Internally Empty 

08:22 — The Signal: Acknowledging the Feeling Without Rushing to Fix It 

09:32 — Getting Honest: The Depression Conversation Nobody Has 

11:25 — Feeling Off With No Clear Cause 

12:38 — Why Routine Is the First Thing to Rebuild 

14:00 — Building Intentional Habits for Emotional Grounding

16:57 — Recognizing Subtle Signals Before They Get Loud 

18:26 — You Don't Have to Explain It to Acknowledge It 

20:30 — The Danger of Going Through the Motions 

21:35 — Autopilot Living and Internal Disconnection 

23:20 — Presence Over Productivity 

26:46 — Outgrowing Situations, People, and Old Versions of Yourself 

29:38 — Comfort Zones vs. Necessary Change 

32:03 — How Clarity Actually Comes 

33:39 — Small Adjustments Over Drastic Overhauls 

36:29 — Sitting With the Feeling Instead of Running From It

40:00 — Realignment Is a Process, Not a Moment 

43:59 — Focus on What Moves the Needle, Not Everything at Once 

45:00 — What Happens After Clarity 

47:32 — Honesty as the Foundation of Intentional Living 

49:51 — Moving With Purpose 

51:09 — From Awareness to Action 

52:27 — Final Word: Define It. Build It. Live It.

If this episode gave you something to think about, subscribe to Dear Legacy, drop a comment, follow us on social media, and share it with someone building their legacy in real time.

Till then Go Define it, Go Build it, Live it.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

You stopped avoiding it. The patterns start to make a little bit more sense. Things you've ignored started connecting together. Your awareness increases once you actually look at it. Because we acknowledged it. Y'all miss me? I know it's been a while. Wow, no. It's been a long while. We were going on three weeks. Took a vacation. Life was life and then I moved down. This is your first time seeing this setup, huh? I moved down here into the actual studio that we built out in the basement, and like everything is chaotic down here. That's why you got this Raj Paj looking setup. I just I didn't want to just have white walls, my blue LED lights again washed out. So I had to put something, you know, do a little bit of artwork for you guys. You know what I mean? Give y'all something to look at, right? I know it like I like I said, man, I lost, I lost momentum for a little bit, lost a couple of weeks. And honestly, um, the break was probably something that I actually really did need, right? Um like I said, life be life in did take the kid away for um, went down to Orlando. Our goddaughter was um in nationals for cheer competition down there. Um, and we took the kid to actually take a quick little vacation. You know, we was out there for well, about four or five days, um, good good break time, and like I said, moved down here. Everything was chaotic, so I lost a week with that also. And then, you know, it just turned into one of those situations where just wasn't I wasn't fully there to create, to come and and and speak, right? And that's probably like I probably should have gotten on and spoke because at the same time, it's like, let's be real, let's be honest. Like we said, we're gonna do on this journey together, right? But sometimes real and honest, it sounds great to you actually gotta sit down and and and do it when there's no umph, no feeling, no nothing, right? Um, but yeah, like I said, it it it was probably much needed time off, still not fully there. I'm not gonna lie to you guys, but I had to get back on because what we're not gonna do is lose all the momentum. What we're not gonna do is get back on here with each other and and and be real with each other, you know. Mentally, creatively, emotionally, I'd just been off. Trying to push through, trying to, trying to create still, trying to stay in rhythm with things, but eternally, something just wasn't clicking, right? For whatever reason. Whether it be life, uh work stressors, life stressors, I don't know what it was. But I just know that for a week at least, there was just not there. And and it's kinda it's kind of cool though, because when I sat down, I was like, you know what, I gotta get back on. Regardless of the fact, let me let me just get back on um and get with the people. You know, talk it out, not just do with it eternally. Um and then I opened up, because I got a couple episodes that I I I wrote out, not in any particular order. You know, I like to do story arcs, but the way I do my story arcs, it's interchangeable. I try to do three episode story arcs. Um, and I opened the first one that I opened up, and I was like, oh, how fitting. It's like perfect. Because this one is talking about when life is off. And I had to, once I saw that, it kind of gave me the umph that I needed to get to get back on, right? As chaotic as it looks right now in here, is borderline stressing me out because I'm not settled. I always like things to be settled. But at the same time, it is technically settled. It's settled to do what I needed to do. Turn the camera on, turn the mic on, and let's go. Let's we have we have our our talking points, we have the arc, we know what we're trying to do, what we're trying to convey. So let's just do it. You know, I tell people all the time if this is your first time with with us, we're not just creating content. This is more than just a podcast, this is an open letter to ourselves and who we're becoming, a place where we could just slow it down, reflect, question things and grow, right? And I I forgot that part. Even though I was going through what I was going through eternally, I had to remember that let's grow together. I could have came on and put it instead. I just was away for three, three weeks. And then that created anxiety, that created stresses in itself. Because I'm like, oh my God, I'm falling. And the little viewership that I was getting, I'm gonna lose all of it, and I gotta start all over and uh sometimes we just gotta slow down, reflect, and grow, right? And and figure it out in real time together, whether it's be the good, the bad, the the clear moments, the not so clear moments, the messy ones too, right? Because legacy is not built in perfect seasons, and I've been saying this since episode one, right? We we can't we can't expect it to be done in perfect seasons. That we we've established that there's really no such thing as perfect. We could chase for perfection. Jay said it best. Can't be scared to fail in a search of perfection. Because we're searching for perfection. Well, we're not gonna be perfect, we're not perfect people, you know? But what we do know it's built in the moments where we're gonna show up regardless. We're gonna keep showing up. Even while we're trying to figure things out, right? And if if you've been on this journey with me, then you already know these past few episodes haven't just been about conversations, they've been about mirrors. Mirrors into us, what we're doing, what we're building, how we're defining it, how we're building it, how we're living it, right? And today's episode might be the most relatable one yet. So let's let's let's let's dive deep into it. Let's let's let's talk about it a little bit. There are moments in life where everything looks fine. Nothing's falling apart, nothing's going wrong, but something still just doesn't feel right. I mean, you're showing up, right? You're handling your responsibilities, doing what you're supposed to do. But internally, something just feels loud. It's not like it's loud, it's not like it's screaming, it's not like it's so obvious. It's just something you can't easily explain. And it's in those moon, it's in those moments, the the the quiet feelings that's that something just isn't clicking the way that it should. You ever go through a whole day, get things done, check the boxes, and when everything slows down, you sit there and think, why doesn't this feel right? Not because something went wrong, but just because something feels missing. And the confusing part about the whole matter is is on the outside, everything actually does still look good. You're making progress, you're doing what you said you was gonna be doing, but internally there's a disconnect. And most of the time, we don't stop long enough to look at it. We just keep going. We're gonna stay busy, we're gonna distract ourselves, we're gonna push through it because that's how we built. You know, we we've talked about it before, like staying busy doesn't mean you're actually being productive, right? We'll tell ourselves, I'm good, I'm gonna figure it out. Oh, it's just a phase. But deep down, we we know, we know something's not right. And the truth is feeling off is so confusing, but at the same time, it's a signal. And if you don't slow down long enough to recognize it, you'll keep moving. Just not in a direction that actually feels right for you. So then it just keeps bellowing up and it keeps going, it keeps going, it's keep going, and then you're you you just feel more lost, more chaotic. Then you get frustrated, you get pissed, you get down on yourself, you're starting to feel sad. So today we're not gonna we're not rushing in to fix anything. I'm not a therapist. I got enough, I got I got three professionals that are on my team and they don't know about each other. I mean, they know about each other, but they don't like share notes or anything. But I I I work with three professionals for a reason. Because I'm trying to be better, grow better. But I can't fix everything all at once. We're not gonna sit here and try to force answers. We're not sitting here trying to understand what the feeling was. I'm just gonna try to tell you because it's not random. It's pointing you somewhere. And the the thing is, what I came to realize is I still I still ain't figured out. To be to be completely honest, I I still ain't figured out. I I um I don't know if I've ever talked to you guys about this on here, but I do I do go through spells of depressions from time to time. You know, I have my own mental stuff, and you know, as an entrepreneur, as a father, as a husband, as many titles as you wear, you know the burden gets heavy from time to time, right? And this was no different. It is just I have an outlet. It it took me a while, but it wasn't like the three weeks I was gone, I was going through a uh an episode. It just so happened to work out. Like, again, like I said, I moved everything down here, it was mad chaotic, and I don't really like recording on my phone because it's one, it's harder to edit. Two, I don't get the right angles, and and you don't know what you're gonna get until it's done. Hell, half the time with this whole setup, it don't even be right, you know. But you you try to figure it out and then went on vacation, and at that time I wanted to be present in the moment. I didn't bring no gear out because even if I was to bring gear, excuse me, it would have been either on my phone or it would have been something where I'm taking time away from from my goddaughter or my son or or the family members that we was meeting with down in Orlando. And, you know, I I had a good time. We got to do pool, we we went to Universal, you know, Caden had a great time, we got some golfing. So that part was good. But the moment you come back, I think that's when the internal turmoil started happening. And I started freaking out and panicking because for two out of my three shows, I ain't recording nothing in two weeks. And then I'm watching the days tick by and I'm like, all right, well, why don't I just wait until Monday and then I'll just hit that again? And then Monday rolls around and I'm I didn't even do my run of shows. You know, I I've written out a couple of episodes that I wanted to do, but it was like you you have to feel it in the moment sometimes too. It's not just sit down, ramble, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Nobody wants to sit there and watch one person ramble, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. I gotta give substance. I have to make sure my talking points are are are staying on track. I gotta make sure that I'm giving you the real me where it's relatable at the same time. Because I refuse to believe I'm the only person. I can't be the only person going through a lot of these things, right? But it it it is what it is, and and most of the time you just gotta really sit there and and and stop and pause. If you can, right? If you even notice what it is, because like I said, some of us we're just gonna keep going. I tried. I try to keep going, I try to push through and I try to and and then you know, right now at the university, there's it's it's graduation week. So there's so much going on and it's piling up and the little pockets that you had to take care of a couple of little things, they're gone. So now even when I'm sitting here journaling, I can't even time block right because I'm feeling like I'm behind on certain things and I'm trying to create new routines. And well, I did create new routines, and I'm finally getting a groove of that. I meditated for the first time, guys. And it was it was actually pretty cool. Um, I'm not gonna hold you. I I did it right in here. I came down here and I I put on the rainforest stuff, music in the background, and I I sat with just that playing. I had the blue lights up, turned off the main lights, and it was just calming. I sat there. And one thing that I learned in talking to people, it's like I've always thought like you gotta quiet your brain, you can't be thinking about stuff and all that good jazz. But in reality is it's okay if thoughts are going through your mind. But you could calm down all those thoughts and the chaos and all that stuff, and you're you're thinking more clearly because you're sitting there in the moment. I'm not grabbing phones, I'm not taking out notes, I'm not doing any of this, I'm just clearing my thoughts, not gone, but like the noise, like all the things being thrown out. And and today I I felt, I was like, huh, this is why people do these things. It is very calming. Right? But let me let me get back on track. I I just wanted to share that with you guys. Uh it's something that I'm trying um mornings and evenings, uh, my my prayers and my meditation, I'm reading. Um, what else am I doing? Preparing better and journaling, definitely like actually blocking time to actually like really journal, not just be scribbling all over the place. Um so we'll see how that goes. I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna try. I'm going to do this for about I want to push for 90 days. I want to get in a good habit of this routine that I built out for the morning and the night. Um, is it gonna be perfect? We all know how chaos works. It's it's not gonna be perfect. But just like we're gonna talk about in this episode, it'll help for when you're feeling off because you have a routine to go back to. You have a center, a center base to go back to, right? And I I wanna see if it'll help. Because I don't know what triggered this last episode. Because I wasn't all the way like full on depressed and sad and all like I was working, I was doing stuff. It's just I didn't feel like me. And those that go through it, you you you know what I'm talking about. You just don't feel like you. You're you're going through the motions. But um and most of the times we we treat the feeling these feelings as if like it's something to ignore instead of something to actually understand, right? Because one thing I learned through therapy is trying to find what was the trigger point, what what just happened, what is it that I'm feeling in at that at that moment, even though if you can't it you just know something's off and you just can't explain it, but that's okay. Um, for the longest of time, when I first started, I used to sit there and I would write down what was I doing, what was I thinking about when the feelings first started coming up. Because I know not not nothing's wrong, but it might also not feel right at the same time. I'm still functioning, I'm still showing up, but it doesn't hit the way during the day and and and it shows up in in the wrong times. So you know something just ain't right, and it's so quiet, it's so subtle the way uh for me like it just comes and it just calm. It's like I can't say it's like a calming effect because it's not a calming effect, but it just comes over. You just know that something just isn't right. Um my my prompt question for this one is it's funny because I'm I'm kind of going off script because it's not a script, but it's like I have prompts and talking points. But I I'm I'm I'm sit here thinking, and it asks, when was the last time you felt off but couldn't explain why? And for me, it was last week. Last week I knew I was off, but I didn't know I I I don't remember any trigger trigger points, I don't remember anything being too chaotic and crazy that it's gonna send me into a tailspin. It it just one of those things, it just happened, right? And um yeah, so it it was I think the part of it that was more difficult was the fact that I could not figure out why, where, and you you try to figure out is there anything any new stressors, anything that was going on. Just couldn't figure it out. It was just one of those weeks. Life was probably life and then it triggered something. I don't know. Um but one thing that I do know, and one thing that I want those that are going through it just like me, is we don't need to explain it. We just gotta acknowledge that something is off. And I think that's the part. I think we're so focused on trying to explain the feeling or explain what's happening as opposed to just acknowledging it. Let's acknowledge it and not push past it, right? And what makes it even more confusing is when everything around you looks like it's working, but yeah, you still just have that feeling. When life looks right but feels wrong, right? It it leaves you with a feeling of disconnection. Everything looks good on paper, but it doesn't feel fulfilling at the same time. And I think that's what I was going through last week. Every time I sat down to actually sit and record, it was one of those situations where it was like, it looks great, it sounds great, but it doesn't feel great. It's not fulfilling me the way that it normally would. I'm not saying that every episode that I've ever sat down to record is is fulfilling and made me feel great and oh my God, rah-rah-rah. No, there's times I sit here, I'm tired. I I don't know where I was going with the episode. You know what I mean? Like I'm saying that sometimes I'd be looking at the prompts, I was like, wait, what am I trying to talk about here? But you pushed through. But this time it was more than just a push-through situation. It wasn't, it wasn't what I had written down, it wasn't none of that. It was just something was off. Still making progress, but it didn't feel connected to me. And although I'm doing what I said I was going to do, but something still feels missing. So therefore, you're looking at the papers, you're looking at the journals, you're looking at the notes that you did, and and you're looking at the boxes, you're actually checking stuff. But then when you sit down and you'll be like, I don't know what it is that I accomplished today. That's the part of the fulfillment, you know. When you sit in there and you're questioning, what did I even do today? Like, I know I check some things, but was I was it like productive check of boxes type situation? Or is it just I'm going through the motions and the rig-um and rows and all that other good jazz? Because checking boxes without feeling present is not what we're trying to do. We don't want to just check boxes to check boxes. That's leading us into a pathway that we're we're we're not really trying to go down, you know. And I asked, I asked me and I asked you, have you ever had a moment where everything looked right but you still didn't feel right? Yes. Not just last week. There's plenty of times. It could be a random day where everything is going right and it feels right, it looks right, but deep down inside, you know, I was just going through the motions. Right? Because just because it's working doesn't mean it's working for you at the same time. It might not be you you know what sometimes I feel? I feel as though the reason that I'm feeling off isn't it's because it's not aligning with who I say that I am and who what it is that I'm trying to do, what it is that I'm trying to become. So that's Internal feeling is kind of telling you something. And after a while, you realize you're not really feeling it, you're just going through it. And there's a difference, right? Going through it just to ignore it, or going through it to actually feel it. Going through it, not living it, right? Sometimes that creates a massive disconnect to yourself. Your days start to feel like it's automatic, like you're on autopilot. And I think a lot of us, that's what we tend to do. We we put that autopilot on, we go on cruise control, we just go. Because we have to just keep keep moving. Even if we know and we feel like this is not what we're not being true to ourselves. You know what I mean? I said that I'm building these routines, but these routines is to create more consistency. It's to create better sleep habits, better workout, um, better, better I'm not creating routines just to go through life. I'm creating routines in order to build and do what it says that I what I say that I want to do. Not just because it's what it's expecting of me, it's because it's aligning with me. Because you can physically show up all day, every day, but if you're mentally and emotionally checked out, what's the point? Right? You could be in the presence of somebody, but if you're not there mentally and emotionally, and and you're just checked out, what is the point? And you could be doing that to yourself. You literally could have checked out of yourself because you're not walking in your purpose, you're not walking in your alignment. Just think like in this past I'm I'm I'm gonna use my me as an example, we haven't been with each other for three weeks. Where in your life were you just going through the motions instead of actually being present? Last week, instead of instead of actually just going through the motions, I decided to just let me chill. I'm not gonna put, and I told you guys on on this episode, on this show and on uh on my other shows as well. I'm not just gonna put stuff out just to put it out. I'd rather, I'd rather just let the algorithm screw me over. Is that always gonna be the case? There's gonna be days where it's like, mm-hmm, you're still gonna have to do it. And maybe it'll be a little bit easier or even more aligned and fulfilled once I start bringing you on the guests, right? Because now you're not just talking with yourself and going through the this is to be honest, this is like therapy for me, to be honest. I get to talk through a lot of stuff, but sometimes you need to get another perspective. That's why there's therapists out there, that's why there's friends out there, that's why there's family, there's colleagues that you could actually talk certain things through with, right? That's the part about being present. You're not stuck. You're just disconnected. You're disconnected because of the simple fact that you're not moving with intention or within your alignment. You're just going through the motions because you want to check the box. You want to say that you accomplished something. And you're just gonna keep brushing off these feelings, knowing that you feel off, knowing that this is not with your alignment, you're gonna sit there, you're gonna brush it off. And then you start to realize it's actually pointing you towards something. Those feelings that you're doing, that into in internal turmoil that you're battling right now, it's pointing you towards something. Something is out of alignment. And that's what these feelings are trying to tell you. Something's not right. We need to slow down for a second and figure out what it is that we're feeling. Are we outgrowing situations, habits, direction? Sometimes in your life it doesn't fit the right way it used to anymore. So you're you're you're internally or subconsciously, whatever word you want to use, Lee, is telling you, hey, this ain't working no more. We might we might need a pivot here. Hey, we might need to align ourselves with this. I know this was the pathway and this was the direction that we wanted to, but that just led us to here so that we could know that, okay, I was on the right path, but it was leading me towards something else. But we're not gonna know if we if it's leading us toward something else if we're just sitting there going through the motions. Rather than sitting there actually making sure that we're still walking within our purpose, walking in our alignment, we're just going through the motions. Your actions and your mindsets are and your mindset are fully matching what you say that you want to do. That's such a tough part. Because going through it, but mentally you're not here. It's not aligned, it's not matching. Growth has happened, but your situation hasn't caught up yet. That's the tricky part. You're growing, but because you're not making sure that you're on the right place, or you didn't realize that it was time for you to pivot, your growth is not catching up with your mindset, or your mindset is not catching up to your growth. Sometimes, like I said, you just outgrow something. But we have to know when we outgrow something that we have to adjust to that out the what we just outgrown. If your life doesn't feel like it fits the way you want the way it used to, there's a reason. There's a reason. You know, we all go through these phases where it's like, um, what's that line? Some people are there in your life for a reason or a season. Remember that part. It's not just the reason part. I think we just so focus on the reason part because we get in our feelings about certain things, but sometimes it's just for a season. Just like things that we're doing, things that we say that we'll accomplish, things that we're working towards, it might have just been for that season.

SPEAKER_01 28:28

Go through it, then you you you move on from it, you pivot from it, right?

SPEAKER_00 28:35

Sometimes the growth is what's making us feel off. It's gonna make us feel off before it actually makes sense. I don't know why, you know, one like I said, it was three weeks that we haven't seen we haven't seen each other and had any type of content. You're you're talking about one week you you it was because you had to move, right? You moved into the the studio that you built out for this stuff. Yeah, it's chaotic or whatever, but I could have still done it. It took me all of maybe an hour to get the a simple setup. It ain't like I don't know how to plug the mic back into the the roadcaster, the roadcaster. I didn't know how to put my teleprompter back up. I didn't know how to put the screen back up. There's a bunch of stuff that's not connected right now. That's not working the way it's supposed to be working, it's not positioned where it's supposed to be positioned. The art is literally sitting on my couch, could fall in the middle episode. I don't feel I don't know. Right. But I I again I was in a process of looking for perfection, going through the motions. Oh, it has to be this way before I could do why I thought we outgrew that. Guess we did it. You know? And I'm growing and I'm learning, and and and it it's it's starting to make more sense to me because of that. And sometimes it's, it's, and sometimes it's not the something that is wrong. It's the something that's being ignored. That's the part that makes it feel wrong. You already know what it is. Sometimes you're choosing comfort over clarity. Because we've been doing it this way and it's been working this way, and it's been aligning with my pathway, but something's off and I'm I'm just fighting it. But you're fighting it because it's been good so far. We're comfortable now. We don't want to get out of this box. What do you mean? Like it's it's it's working well for us. But that's where you have to pivot. Some of us are avoiding it because facing it will require change. Choosing comfort now over clarity later. Like I I even to myself, I it just doesn't make any sense. Avoiding it ain't gonna change the situation. It's still gonna require change, whether you like it or not. You could fight that all you want. You need to do the change that it's pointing you towards. We all know there's something out here that we haven't fully faced yet because we don't want to do the change. Clarity doesn't come from searching, it comes from being honest with ourselves. Sometimes we won't be able to explain it. But if we stop in that moment and instead of trying to explain it, we actually acknowledge it. That's us being honest with ourselves. Because we don't have to sit there and try to search and figure out what the what is going on, why am I feeling like this? Just acknowledge it and let it see where it's gonna take you. It's taking you somewhere for a reason. And the moment you stop avoiding it, now the feeling isn't confusing anymore. It gets a little bit clearer. The signal that you've been, that your body's been telling you, that your subconscious has been telling you, it becomes clearer. You stopped avoiding it. The patterns start to make a little bit more sense. Things you've ignored started connecting together. Your awareness increases once you actually look at it. There's no more confusion, there's no more chaos. Because we acknowledged it. And then now we're seeing, okay, where is it taking me? Why is it taking me in this direction? It gets a little bit clearer and a little bit clearer, and then that feeling starts to dissipate. You know why it started to dissipate? Because it's starting to get clearer. It's putting you on a pathway that you were supposed to be going now. You're coming out of your comfort zone. You're accepting the change that you needed to do because it still aligns with who you said that you were trying to become. When I say define it, live it, define it, live it, build it, excuse me, define it, build it, live in, the definition ain't set in stone. It could change over time as clarity comes. Building it, we we've talked about this episode one or two, where we talked about it's like a house structure. We could tear it down, put it back up, dig deeper into the foundation, add a basement, extend it back, extend it up. There's so much that could happen. But we so focused on having the four walls and the roof and calling it a day, but you could you could do more. You could do more. But we're choosing not to because we're comfortable. It fits what it fits what it fits right now. But you could outgrow it. You could outgrow that house. Now you need a little bit more house. You might need a couple more walls, you might need another level, you might need that basement to put a studio in so you could feel more comfortable and doing what you need to be doing. You have to sit there and tell yourself, what has this feeling been telling me the whole time? Because if you can't sit there and pause for two seconds and try to figure out what is it trying to show me? Maybe it's not a bad feeling that I'm feeling. I think sometimes we associate it as bad rather than sitting, stopping, reflecting, and really come and trying to get to the root of it all. And sometimes you're never gonna get to the root of all. You're just not. You was just in a bad mood, you're just in a bad feeling, you was getting a little sad, getting a little depressed, but it's okay because life, life, and it punch you in the mouth, and you're gonna get off that mat. Because we're not gonna stay in that comfort zone. So now it's not about how you feel, it's about what you do when you actually get to that point. A lot of us, we're so quick to ignore it just to make sure that we're getting the things on our checkbox completed. And I'm sorry, it's the wrong answer sometimes. When you ignore a problem, whether you think it's a problem or not, because sometimes it might not even be a problem. Like I said, it might just be pointing you towards your new alignment. But we so focused on going through the motions of things that we're forgetting, and then we'd rather just ignore the situation. But brushing off that feeling, it's not gonna make it any better. It's not gonna feel like it actually matters now. Stop filling your time just to avoid thinking about it. You know, going through the motions, making sure that we're checking all the boxes, making sure like on paper everything looks great. But all you're doing is filling your time to avoid thinking about the situation that you're in. Actually sit in that feeling. You know, I I talked about doing meditation for the first time. I got to sit in that feeling, and yes, there were still thoughts in my head, but it seemed a lot clearer. Like it made sense. It wasn't just a bunch of noise clashing with each other. In that moment, this morning, for that 12 minutes, it made sense. I was able to actually go back to my journal after the fact and look at what I had written down, and I got to like reconstruct it. Because I gave myself time to sit in it, think about it, feel it, acknowledge what was going on in my head. Actually sitting with it instead of fighting it and running away from it. Like ask yourself, what would what would happen if you stopped ignoring this feeling and actually sat with it? If we're already feeling bad, do you think it's gonna get worse? Chances are it's gonna get better, right? I I would I would assume. I'm I'm yeah, I'm I'm trying to think, in in my in my scenario and in my situations, does it get better when I sit in it? I can't, whole honestly, I'm not even gonna lie to you guys, I can't even answer that. Because sometimes, even though I know which possibly might have triggered it, I sat in it and I felt, I still would rather just leave that over there and let's just keep it pushing. But that's not the that's not the way to get through it sometimes. Avoiding that signal is not it doesn't silence it, it doesn't stop it, just delaying the inevitable. I'm a firm believer that everything's already been written. Yes, we have free will. Yes, we have choices on certain things, but the choice that you make, it's still part of the storyline. You just chose A or B. So if we have free will to change what's already been written, why can't we sit in it for a split second and actually think certain things through and not delay the inevitable? The inevitable could be a good thing. I know it sounds daunting and all that stuff. I know life is life and then it could be chaotic, but it uh it it that delay could be a good thing. And once you sit, and once you sit with it, you don't need to panic anymore. You just need to respond differently. We don't have to overreact. We could just adjust to the situation. You don't need to change everything at once. And I I think even myself, I think sometimes I'm thinking like, oh my God, I'm going into one of my moods. I need to fix this right now, and these are the calm the F down. Actually, let me rephrase that. I think that was a good time for a good curse word. Calm the fuck down. You're overreacting. You just need to adjust slightly sometimes. You don't have to change everything all at once. You didn't get here by everything happening all at once. Focus on the small intentional things that you could do right now. Small intentional adjustments will go a whole lot further. Shift your direction without even having to overreact to certain things. Overreactions, overcorrecting, and all that stuff. You're not really adjusting. Hey, relax. Don't fall down now. Embarrass me while I'm recording. Um by overreacting, it's not gonna fix your situation right then and there. When you're panicking, it's not gonna fix anything for you. Clarity. Clarity is what you need in that moment. And you can get that if you just calm down. If we live in panic, we're always gonna be in chaos, nonstop, nonstop. And the pattern's just gonna keep continuing, and then you get to divert from and go in a different direction that you was never supposed to go down in the first place. But that's only because you were panicking, that's because you're trying to overcreate, overcorrect something. When all it should have been was a slight adjustment. Ask yourself right now, what is one of the things that you could adjust right now? A small adjustment that'll change the direction of everything that you've been dealing with or going through. You don't need a reset. You need a realignment. And I treated moving down here as a whole reset. No, it's just a realignment. Got my nice little comfortable couch now. I want to get a right angle for the cameras or whatever the case may be. I gotta reposition bookcases because there's gonna be three studios technically in here. But visually, it it I stop worrying about all that. Turn the camera on. Put a little picture of Harry Potter right here, poker over here, my my I'm good. You know? Just get to the people. Just realign. It's still the same stuff he was doing upstairs. It's still the same messaging. It's still the story, same story arcs. And the people been waiting for guests. You gotta get through these story arcs so we can get to the guests, man. People want to talk to other people about what legacy means to them, how they define it, how they live in it, how they're building it. But every time you keep delaying it, you're not giving the people the things that they need, man. They need to hear from more than just you, you being me. We need those other conversations, we need those other voices to step in here. Because I'm not doing what everybody else is doing. Real change doesn't come from doing more, it comes from moving with intention. We've talked about that. Moving with intention. Start making decisions that actually align with what you feel. Not the feeling in the moment that's creating problems for you internally. But moving with moving with intention to either realign, adjust, or go down the direction, making sure that you're still in the right alignment. Move with the purpose instead of staying staying busy. Busy is not always good. Busy just means you're moving through, you're moving along. It looks great, it sounds great, but you're still in the same spot. That's the crazy part about being busy and then actually moving with attention. You're gonna wake up the next day still in the same spot. You're gonna wake up the day after that, still in the same spot. Because you're not moving with attention. You're moving just to stay busy. You're moving to say that you did something that day. Like I said, there's been plenty of times where I sat down and I looked, I have a lot of check marks, but then I still feel as though, what the heck did I do today? The problem is I never really focus on what actually matters. Sometimes it's right in front of me. I can get that small one right now that's gonna catapult into something bigger. But I'm so focused on the the bigger thing. I have to I I move down here, I gotta set everything up. No, you don't. You just need the camera working, you need the sound coming out of the audio, and you need a screen to make sure you can see what's going on. One speaker to hear everything, and if you don't have a speaker, put the headphones on. You're a visual person, throw throw, throw something on. It's not like it's hooked up to the wall. All I did is just prompt up on the couch and then take the Much it ain't that difficult. This one's prompt up on the on the on the on the armrest. Focus on the little things, man. Stop looking so much at the bigger picture side of things. Because that's when you're gonna get out of alignment. You're gonna be start working out of chaos. Let your actions reflect what you now understand.

SPEAKER_01 44:22

Are your actions aligned with what you actually want? The signal shows you the direction.

SPEAKER_00 44:33

Your action is gonna take you there. The direction is gonna be right there. That's what the turmoil is. That's what you're going through right now. But now that once you figure it out, what are you gonna do with it? What actions are you gonna take? What steps are you gonna take? You still gonna keep focusing on the bigger thing and not working on the little things? You wanna get to the bigger things so much that all the little things are just sitting over there piling up. You so busy on the on the big picture aspect. Let me do it, but everything else is like in flux. Now the question isn't why you feel off. It's what are you gonna do about it? That's key right there. You could maybe figure it out, but what are you gonna do about it? Let's run through a couple questions and and thoughts to to think through some of this stuff. Because this stuff ain't easy. It ain't easy at all. Sometimes you just gotta figure out when did you start feeling off? And what was happening around. I told you, that's one of the best things that my therapist ever told me. What were you doing when it f when you first started feeling off, and what was happening around you at that time? Because that moment usually holds more truth than you give it credit for. You might be ready to brush it off, but if you actually sit there and think about what was happening, what was I doing, who was around me, what was in my environment, and sometimes you don't even need to answer all those questions. One of those questions being answered will give you a whole lot more clarity. And then now it's up to you. You answer the questions, you got the clarity. What are you gonna do about it? The things we ignore don't go away. They just sit and wait. They wait and they're gonna keep waiting. They ain't gonna go nowhere until you actually move with some actual action behind the clarity that you just received. Where in your life right now are you showing up but not fully present? Because we talked about it. Being physically there doesn't mean that you're mentally there. When you're mentally and emotionally checked out, a physical being saying that is useless to you, it's useless to your family, your friends, your business, your job, whatever it is, you're useless at that moment. What do you already know needs to change, but you've just been avoiding it? Because clarity you found and not faced is pointless. You could find the clarity, but don't face it. What is the point? Clarity's here, you're here. How are we gonna meet in the middle to fix it? How are we facing it? And if you're really being honest with yourself, what would alignment actually look like for you right now? Do you even know what that is? What that looks like? What does your alignment look like? For me right now, when it comes to this media stuff, it's getting back to the content, putting out good product. Does that mean it's gonna be for everybody? No. I can't make an episode for everybody. This episode might just resonate with three people, or it might resonate with 300 people. I don't know. But I'm back in my bag. The camera's on, the mic is on. And I'm being truthful, I'm being vulnerable, we're taking this journey together. That's what I've all that's all I've asked of. We're gonna build this legacy together in real time. Because once you can see it clearly, you can start moving towards it. And once you're actually truly honest about what you see, now you have a chance to move differently. And the truth is, feeling off is not a bad thing. It doesn't mean that you're lost. It for sure doesn't mean that you're failing. It means something is trying to get your attention. Because that feeling, no matter how much we think it is, it's not random. It's a signal. Not telling you to panic, not telling you to overreact, not telling you to just quit, not telling you to stop, not telling you to start all over. It might be telling you to slow down. It might be telling you to let's really take home on what's going on. What's happening around us? Are we still in alignment? Because once you now see it clearly, now you have a choice. You could keep moving the same way you've been moving, cool. Or you can make the smart, you could be smart and start making the adjustments. That'll bring you back into alignment or bring you back, bring you into the actual alignment that you were supposed to be in. And remember, it doesn't have to be everything all at once. It just has to be intentional. Because sometimes in life, we get used to surviving more than more than being actual functional. So used to just trying to get through the day that we stop checking in with ourselves sometimes, completely checked out. And after a while, we don't even realize how disconnected we've become. Disconnected from our peace, disconnected from clarity, disconnected from ourselves, from the moments, from the opportunities. But the moment you finally stop and pay attention to what you've been feeling, that's where the shift starts. Not because everything suddenly changed overnight, but because now you're aware. And awareness changes the way you move. So if you're feeling off, don't ignore it. Don't push past it. Pay attention to it. Go back and sit in it. Listen to what it's trying to show you. Like I said, feeling off is not failure. It's feedback. It's your mind, it's your spirit asking you, begging you, pleading with you to listen. And maybe for the first time in a long time, to finally be honest about what you really need.

SPEAKER_01 51:47

And if this episode connected with you some way, if you're the three or the three hundred, let's slow down.

SPEAKER_00 51:56

Let's reflect. See yourself a little bit clearer. That's when I feel as though this conversation was bigger than content. Because it gave you something to think about. And if it did give you something to think about, go ahead and subscribe to Dear Legacy. Drop a comment, let me know. Follow us on social media, but most importantly, share it with somebody, building their legacy in real time. Till then, go define it, go build it, go live it to the fullest of your capability. Listen to that voice inside. Slow down for two seconds. Find your clarity. Till then, it's your boy Kevin B. The Brand. See you next week, y'all. Peace.